A Conversation with Me

A new year has begun, and here at Karmameju we are once again giving the biggest 'hug' to DO YOU – our mantra, which we hope reminds you to focus on what truly matters.

We want to invite you to “a conversation with yourself” about what makes you feel content, what helps you achieve what you want, and how you can sort out everything else.

To create inspiration for that conversation, it was important to me that it started with me having the conversation with myself first. I want everything I/Karmameju stand for to have deep integrity and authenticity, so of course I had to have the conversation to feel what it could do, and I was quite surprised by how wonderfully concrete it became for me.

There are many things I want to do in life, and I can’t do it all. My wish is to be realistic about balancing my time and then to have a good feeling of achieving what is most important to me.

I would so love to inspire you to have an important conversation with yourself. Below, you will therefore find little summaries of my conversation with myself - some of my reflections and decisions. I’ll spare you the entire write-up, as it became very long. The conversation has already created good, small changes in my everyday life - changes that I’m really happy about.

If you’d like to try ”A conversation with you” yourself, you can read more in the article here, so you can have the conversation with yourself.

Hi Mette.

“Little Mette” and “Big Mette”*.

Let’s have a chat about 2025, about your dreams, expectations and wishes. Let’s make a small plan so that life doesn’t just run away with you, but so that you are the captain at the helm.

*Little Mette and Big Mette refer to "the inner child" - a psychological theory based on our early emotions, memories and behavioural patterns that remain unresolved or still affect us in adult life.

My mental health is a top priority in the coming year and all the years after. My "conversation with me" about my mental health primarily revolved around the question: What supports me in being carefree and positive? What naturally makes me wake up in the morning happy and with a calm mind? Life, as we experience it, “happens” in our thoughts, and if we give the body good conditions, our thoughts will be more positive.

The main points in my conversation were sleep, nourishing food, daylight, movement and practising positive thinking, also about myself - accepting and respecting that I am exactly as I should be. Spending time in nature. Nurturing my most important relationships, turning off the TV in the evening and reading or being creative instead, because that makes me happy.

Mental health - to-do:

- Book weekly dates with nature in the calendar.

- Buy a notebook for poetry and prose. Get back to writing - just for me.

- Less TV – more creativity.

- Focus on spending time with the most important people + book dates in the calendar.

- Continue my key holistic health elements: sleep, daylight, etc.

2024 was the year I had my first full health check-up. It set a lot of different things in motion. It started with my vitamin D level being low and one out of four liver values being high. This led to a series of tests, which, among other things, told me that my bones need extra 'help' to last. It also led to a decision to take bioidentical hormones in connection with menopause, among other things.

Physical health - to-do:

- Divide my vitamins into daily portions for the week, so it’s easy to remember to take them. Find small, pretty containers to keep them in, so they’re something I’m happy to have standing out on the kitchen counter.

- Book strength and cardio training 2-3 weeks in advance, so the classes aren’t fully booked and time doesn’t slip away from me. Ideally, book with family/friends. Also prioritise breathwork. Go to Osteostrong weekly to strengthen bones and balance. 

- Continue my most important holistic health elements: diet, hydration, etc.

I am very yin and yang when it comes to socialising, and my conversation with myself mainly revolved around these opposing poles. On the one hand, I’m very sociable, while on the other hand, I’m a homebody who thrives alone. It’s about finding the right balance.

My daughters, my family and my friends are incredibly important – and time spent alone is equally important, especially when my ‘to-dos’ are all ticked off and I start to pay more attention to “what do I actually feel like doing now.”

Relationships - to-do

- Practise being more at ease when you’re with others – you don’t always have to contribute so much.

- Book at least 4 Svendborg (my hometown) dates in the 2025 calendar.

- Make a list of the most important relationships and book dates with them.

And with my lovely daughters:

- Book a ”meeting” with each of them about ”A conversation with you”

- Book things in the calendar that we want to do together.

- Focus on traditions – these are often the things we remember later in life.

This conversation is especially important this year. I haven’t had time for hobbies as such in many years, with young children and a business, but that time is coming now. However, I can feel that it takes something of me to get back into spending time on them – to spend time on something ”purposeless”.

My work with herbarium artworks has awakened what a body therapist called ”Manhattan-Mette” – that is, Mette in her 20s, who lived in New York and had 100 creative projects on the go. I’m in the process of finding my way back to her, and I need to help that along. There’s so much I want to do, but I also realised that this, too, is something I need to prioritise.

Hobbies - to-do

- My focus for 2025 will be writing and creating herbarium artworks. Set aside time in the calendar to make herbarium, as it’s time-consuming and messy. Find 6 x 3-day ”weekends” throughout 2025 where I know I won’t have anything else to do.

- Write, just write. There are so many words inside me, and I love it when they dance on paper.

Work/ life balance is actually a strange concept; it sounds as if work isn’t part of life and vice versa, and it’s entirely individual. Maybe it should be called ”life balance” – and each person defines what that is?"

In terms of my work, my finest task is to separate my working life and my free time a little more, so I’m not always on the go. A bit more structure and, for example, taking Sundays completely off.

My most important focus in my work is to inspire people with everything I’m passionate about and that I find works well for me and many around me - as well as improving people’s skin and bringing it into good balance.

So 2025 is more of everything - just in slightly better balance.

Work/life balance - to-do:

- Create structure around social media so it’s not always part of everything.

- Better separation between when I’m working and when I’m off.

- Focus on spending my time on what matters most when I’m working.

My mother was widowed with us when she was 36, and I grew up with a mother who had to make ends meet. This has made me somewhat anxious about money. It’s Little Mette who says ”No! You can’t buy that bag! Are you crazy - what if you need the money later?”

And this is where Big Mette is welcome to start taking over a little. I want to create a calm and balance in myself that isn’t fear-based.

My focus for 2025 is to spread my assets across a few more ”baskets”, so that I’m working on my pension, which I started very late, and I will continue to secure the family’s finances by making us as little vulnerable as possible to the world we live in.

Financial security - to-do:

- Keep building a good pension.

- Make sure to have cash available, and perhaps buy a little gold.

- Relax! Enjoy life. You won’t go without the basics - heal Little Mette.

- Consider whether the herbarium artworks should be sold, as an art dealer has asked, or whether that would turn my hobby into something that is no longer a hobby.

Although I live a very lovely life with many experiences, I also feel that these are things that "happen," rather than big dreams I’m actively living out. For many years, it’s been about small children and the business, and at times, I’ve had difficulty connecting with my dreams and desires – these are what I want to work on in 2025.

Experiences and travel - to-do:

- Set aside a day to focus solely on the experiences I dream of having in 2025: What are MY dream travel destinations? What experiences in Denmark would I like to have? Are there restaurants I dream of visiting? Get them booked in the calendar.

- Book time to create our own "silent retreat" with Marie, as we’ve talked about.

- Book time to meet Tess somewhere in the world.

- Make sure there’s time and space for all the wonderful experiences that arise when friends, network, and others invite me to beautiful occasions and events.

I hope that my little summary of my thoughts can serve as inspiration for you. My conversation with myself is by no means over; it has only just begun. For now, I have set aside a day to keep working on all the points, to get closer and closer to what, when, how, etc. I dream of – right here, at this point in my life, where the possibilities are different from before.

I wish you a wonderful conversation with yourself. I hope you feel confirmed in all the good things you are already doing, and perhaps also a little surprised by what you discover in the conversation with yourself. Above all, I wish for you to be content with your 2025.

All the best from me.

Love, Mette